I can't stress enough that you should book your Celebrant at the same time as your reception venue.
The popular months for weddings, April, May, September, October and November get booked out fast and if you have your heart set on a particular Celebrant, you might be disappointed if you leave it too long.
(Please fill out the form on the 'Contact Lena' page to check my availability on your preferred date). Thanks.
But if you want to have a ceremony that isn't just stock-standard, and really reflects who the two of you are together, you (and your guests) will remember it forever. I will work with you to create a ceremony that is a true reflection of you.
Things to think about:
Who do you want involved?
There are plenty of different ways to include people who are special to you. You can get them to do a reading or make up something of their own to read to you. If you'd like a way for the Mums of the bride and groom to be involved, a nice touch is to have a Ring Warming Ceremony. I find this is a great way to involve children too. They get to hear their names read out and to stand in front of the guests. It makes them feel very important and loved. Wonderful photo opportunity too.
While we're on the topic, readings don't necessarily have to be a poem. They can be anything from passages out of your favourite book, to song lyrics, or something written especially for the day.
I have plenty of material for you to choose from if you're having trouble finding something that's appropriate. This is a lovely way to honour someone, by asking them to read at your ceremony. If there is no one available, I am happy to read it for you.
There are plenty of non-sucky wedding songs, so don't feel like you have to stick with something you've heard at weddings before. Got talented friends? Let them play a song to walk you down the aisle or while you're signing the wedding certificates. Bear in mind that different locations have different rules. Sometimes parks won't allow you to have amplified music and some churches can be strict on what music is played.
Music can be played in most council venues in Hervey Bay.
I provide a PA system through which you can play your music. Just copy your songs on to a CD, in MP3 format and I will do the rest.
You'll need two people to act as witnesses and sign the marriage certificates with you. They can be anyone you like, as long as they are over 18 years old. It can be brothers and sisters, best friends, parents or even grandparents.
You might love traditional wedding vows or you might want to make it more personal. I will be able to tell you the minimum legal requirement and help you build it from there. Or you can get Googling - there's loads of examples on the internet of different types of wedding vows.
I have a multitude of ceremonies for you to choose from. Once I get to know you and how you interact with each other, I can help you write your vows so that when your family and guests hear you make your vows to each other, the words and sentiments will sound natural and match your personalities.
Once you've chosen your vows, make sure you've read them enough so that you're familiar with them but don't worry about trying to learn them off by heart - there's no way you'll remember it in the excitement and nerves of the actual day. You can either print them on cards to read, or I can feed you the words phrase by phrase.
Who stands where.
In a church wedding, you spend a large chunk of time with your backs towards your guests, and standing on opposite sides of the aisle. In a civil ceremony there's no rules about where you have to stand. You can enjoy every moment of the ceremony together if you stand next to each other, facing the guests. That way you can hold hands, make small comments to each other, and your guests get to see your faces!
Hope for the best, plan for the worst. Hopefully you won't need it, but always, always make sure you have a wet weather option. And have a plan in place so if it is raining on the day, you're not the one getting the phone calls - print the back-up location on your invitations, or provide a nominated person's number to take phone calls and questions on the day.
If you're getting married in a park or on the beach, don't forget to get the relevant permission from the Fraser Coast Council. There is a small charge for this, but the venue you choose will be yours to use for that time. You will receive a letter from them stating the time and place. I always like to take a copy of this with me on the day - just in case.
Fashionably late is a myth. Especially if your guests are standing outside in the hot sun with their make up melting!
If you're having kids at the ceremony, or involved in the ceremony, there is absolutely no way to predict or guarantee what they will do on the day. The number one rule is: don't stress if it doesn't go according to plan. Sometimes the cutest things that happen during ceremonies are when kids do things their own way. A good tip for kid-wrangling though is to have a picnic blanket set up right at the front for all of the kids to sit on, and give them a lollipop or bag of lollies each. Sure, they'll hit a sugar high eventually but at least they'll be more likely to be quiet during the ceremony itself.
Thanks to I-do.com.au for some of the above information.
The wedding is just one day.
Have a nice day and put your effort into what comes after.
. . . .Lena.